How to Write a Best Man or Maid of Honor Speech
Your wedding speech does not need to be perfect. It needs to be personal.
A good best man or maid of honor speech is short, kind and specific. Here is a simple structure and a rehearsal plan so you can enjoy the day instead of dreading it.
Practise your speechThe shape of a great speech
Aim for three to five minutes. Open with who you are, tell one story that shows what the person is really like, say something sincere about the couple and finish with a toast.
Humour works best when it is affectionate and the room can follow it. If a joke could embarrass someone, leave it out.
Step by step
Introduce yourself
Say who you are and how you know the person.
Tell one story
One short, specific story beats a list of qualities.
Speak to the couple
Say what you see in them together.
Finish with a toast
“Please raise your glasses to…”.
Rehearsal plan
Write it as you would say it
Short sentences. Natural words.
Read it aloud three times
Fix anything that is awkward to say.
Time it
Cut anything that pushes you past five minutes.
Use a small card
Key words only. Look up often.
Frequently asked questions
How long should the speech be?
Three to five minutes is plenty.
Is it okay to be funny?
Yes, kindly. Make sure the humour is something the couple and their grandparents would enjoy.
What if I cry?
Pause, smile and continue. It shows you care.
How do I calm my nerves?
Practise aloud, breathe slowly before you start and focus on the couple, not the crowd.